” I was fortunate not only to have the same midwife throughout pregnancy and birth, but one who also supported me completely in my choice to have a homebirth. By the time I got to the birth we’d built up such a strong relationship that I had total trust in her, which gave me immense confidence in my ability to have my baby at home.
It went brilliantly, my son was born in a pool in our sitting room, just as I’d envisaged. I strongly believe that this was in a large part down to my faith in my midwife and my calmness in being where I wanted to be for the birth”
“I’ve just had my 3rd baby and I’m in a new area from
where I had my other two. I attribute the success of my births heavily to staying active and healthy during my entire pregnancy process. I was sure to buy running shoes that fit my increased support needs needs from Swift Runners
and I believe this made a world of a difference in my daily mood and the health of the baby. I made sure to go to their running shoe reviews so that I
knew which shoes were best for me.
I was amazed as I got to see the same midwife for every appointment before the birth, whereas with the other two I never saw the same midwife twice. I gained a good relationship with my midwife this time and although I didn’t get her at the birth, she made sure she got to come yesterday to discharge me so she could see how I was getting on and see baby, she gave me a big hug as well which I just thought was lovely as I never gained any sort of relationship with the midwives with the other pregnancies.
I also got lovely midwives at the delivery one of which was a student but felt absolutely at ease with them, again unusual from the others”
Mum of two, London, writes:
“When I was pregnant with my first child, I saw a different midwife every time I had a prenatal appointment (literally).
When I arrived at hospital after 2 days of horrendous back pain (my baby and I were back to back when I went into labour) the first midwife who was assigned to me was monosyllabic and made me feel like I was making a fuss. My labour went on for so long that I got through two more midwives (one of whom was very nice) before I eventually gave birth by emergency caesarean (after having pethidine and an epidural).
Looking back, I think that having an unfriendly, unfamiliar midwife looking after me when I first arrived at hospital increased my fear about the birth and certainly didn’t help me feel safe and supported. The birth turned out very differently to how I’d envisaged it (I’d planned to have my son in a birth pool at the birth centre, with no pain relief). I felt sad about this for a long time”
Emma, Norfolk, writes:
“With my daughter, I lived in busy, busy South London and never saw the same midwife twice.
My care was awful, I had so many complications and they were all dismissive/couldn’t be bothered. I delivered at Mayday hospital in Croydon and had a terrible labour (3 days) with some awful midwives including one who told me I shouldn’t need an epidural (after being drip induced) because women in Africa give birth hanging from a tree!!! Even when I did get the epidural 6 hours later they did that wrong, but that’s another story.
I’m currently pregnant again and now live in South Norfolk. My care has been much better. I have seen 2 midwives the whole way through and one of them wrote to a consultant at the hospital on my behalf asking for a c-section for me based on my previous birth (now booked). I think alot depends (unfortunately) on areas and budgets”
Mum of one, Cornwall
“It seems absurd that after 7 months of building up a relationship with my lovely community midwife, when it came to the birth she wasn’t with me. I wanted the security and peace of mind of the hospital environment but I would’ve loved to have a midwife I knew by my side.
The midwives I saw during the birth were all very kind, but I really do think there should be some way for community midwives to deliver their mums’ babies in hospital”